A: Apparently! This as an issue that never crossed my radar until I recently received some resources from a community liaison on this topic. One of the sentences on the website I was pointed to was this “The signs and symptoms of stress can often be seen in challenging behaviours. Children may be reprimanded for actions that are really stress reactions, rather than intentional misbehavior or poor cognitive ability. Lantieri, L. 2008.” Suddenly it clicked. Sure my child has had a pretty vivid “terrible 3s” phase, so much so I was happy to celebrate her fourth birthday and leave the “3’s” year behind. But reflecting on my child’s behavior made me realize there were many times when she would stop cooperating and start fussing when she got frustrated at something, or when we were stressed ourselves as parents.
In the Kids Have Stress Too! Booklet targeted for parents of preschoolers, it was stated that “Children can experience stress at home, in child care settings, or even in play with
others. In the course of an average day, preschool children experience stress when they have to wait, when they want something they can’t have, or when they lose or break one of their toys.” The following were listed in the booklet as examples of common sources of preschool stress:
- Early or rushed mornings, being hurried
- Exposure to new situations
- Too many expectations or demands
- Separation from parents
- Difficulties with peer friendships
- Fights or disagreements with siblings
- Transitioning from one activity or place to another
- New beginnings such as starting kindergarten or child care
- Frequent change of caregivers
Hmm, rushed mornings, feeling hurried, too many expectations? Sounds a lot like our household. This information has caused me to re-evaluate the way our household is run, and whether my child is expressing some unneeded stress with having a busy daily schedule – something that may not be totally necessary for a 4 year old.
And what can be done if a child is stressed? Apparently one simply measure is just to allow the child to have some more down time. According to one resource handout “Kids also need time to themselves – just to relax and do nothing! Sometimes the best cure for stress is just to have some quiet time. Kids need some time on their own. Listening to music, reading or playing quietly may help them feel better. Doing nothing is fine too!” Hmm, sounds like this advice is applicable to adults too. Don’t we all wish we had more down time to relax and unwind in the midst of our busy and hectic schedules? I know I do!
For this and other great resources on how to help preschoolers and kindergarteners cope and deal with stress, see this link: KHST Preschool and Kindergarten
- Kids Have Stress Too! KHST! The Psychology Foundation of Canada. https://psychologyfoundation.org/Public/Public/Programs/Kids_Have_Stress_Too/Kids_Have_Stress_Too_.aspx. Accessed February 22, 2017.
- Kids Have Stress Too! KHST Preschool and Kindergarten. Psychology Foundation of Canada. https://www.psychologyfoundation.org/Public/Resources/KHST_Download_Resources/Copy_of_Download_Resources.aspx?WebsiteKey=7ec8b7ce-729b-4aff-acd8-2f6b59cd21ab&hkey=0e18b555-9114-49b4-9838-084fab967f0e. Accessed February 22, 2017.)